Men and women communicate differently

The average woman speaks about 20,000 words a day, men average 7,000. Most men have a hard time communicating anything that remotely resembles an emotion. Why? Because emotions are scary to men, who think much more than they feel, and much of the time, many men don’t even know what or how they are feeling.

What men need to understand is that when a woman says she wants to talk, she’s saying I want to be closer. Unfortunately, when a man hears that he thinks something’s wrong.Men and women also have different conversational styles. Women tend to talk faster when they get excited and may interrupt their partners who are struggling to find the right words. When this happen their male counterparts may lose track or shut down because they feel cut off and were unable to express what they were feeling. Men find it more difficult to attach words to emotions and getting back on track in an emotional conversation can be very difficult for them.

Men believes communication should have a clear purpose . Behind every conversation is a problem that needs solving or a point that needs to be made. Communication is used to get to the root of the dilemma as efficiently as possible.

Woman uses communication to discover how she is feeling and what it is she wants to say. She sees conversation as an act of sharing and an opportunity to increase intimacy with her partner. Through sharing, she releases negative feelings and solidifies her bond with the man she loves.

The fact is men and women communicate differently.

Based on research,and a number of books such as Debra Tannen’s, “You just don’t understand”, here are some overall observations of differences between men and women. Understanding these differences can assist you in continuing to build and maintain relationships.

Marketers should be keenly aware of these facts as it can help increase marketing effectiveness.

Originally published at on August 22, 2017.



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